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Methods

Rooted in Evidence, Anchored in Compassion

To help you to get results, I rely on evidence-based methods with kindness and empathy at their core.

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Gottman Method for Couples Counseling

The Gottman Method is a research-based modality that focuses on emotions and behavior. With their techniques, you can learn to build and sustain a strong relationship house that includes friendship, shared goals, and effective conflict management. Learn more about their research​

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CBT for Anxiety and Depression

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has been shown to be highly effective with anxiety and depression. These techniques can help you transform your feelings through changing your thoughts and behavior. Learn about CBT here.

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I am pursuing certification in TEAM CBT, a brief, intensive version of CBT well-suited to clients who wish for quick symptom reduction from anxiety or depression. Learn more about TEAM CBT here

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Mindfulness & Wellness

There are hundreds of mindfulness and wellness techniques that can be applied in support of increasing emotional regulation. I can help you build your toolbox of strategies for calming your nervous system and finding embodied grounding. 

Why I use these methods

 

Gottman Method

I appreciate the in-depth research behind Gottman Method Couples Therapy. For example, Dr. John Gottman’s research "indicates that 69% of relationship conflicts are 'perpetual problems" rooted in fundamental differences in personality, values, or lifestyle. These issues, such as cleaning habits or finances, are rarely solved but rather managed through humor, acceptance, and dialogue, preventing them from becoming gridlocked, toxic, or leading to divorce." 

 

Additionally, the Gottman Method  â€‹emphasizes the importance of deeply understanding your partner and practicing kind behaviors. The Gottman Method can be integrated with many other modalities, such as EFT.

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TEAM-CBT

TEAM-CBT prioritizes deep empathic understanding and sets a very high bar for therapists. T in TEAM is for testing, which includes ongoing assessment of how well the therapist is doing. â€‹I appreciate how this model is highly strengths-based and integrative. The M in TEAM is for methods, and effective methods from any therapeutic modality can be integrated into methods. ​​​

Specialized Experience/Training

Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Level 1 and Level 2

Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples

TEAM-CBT (particularly for anxiety and depression)

Brainspotting (for trauma)

Solution-Focused Brief Therapy

Wellness and stress management

Supporting women with postpartum depression

Loss & grief, including for suicide survivors

Coaching

Career counseling

© 2025 by Lori Nicolaysen | Vista Counseling PLLC: Counseling for adults 18+

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​Service Area: Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill, Cary, Apex, Morrisville, Wake County, and across North Carolina (telehealth)

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Phone: 919-885-6366 | Email: lori@vistacounselingnc.com

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