I can help with...

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• Loss of joy/connection/friendship in your relationship

• Communication challenges

• Conflict and resentment

• Inability to resolve ongoing disagreements

• Adjusting to or managing stepfamily relationships

• Premarital planning

 

Gottman Method

 

I work with couples who seek to build their capacity for love, affection and skillful communication. I primarily rely on the Gottman method, an evidence-based modality. The Gottman method was developed through years of studying the habits of effective relationship "master" versus severely struggling couples (“disasters").

 

I appreciate the in-depth research behind Gottman Method Couples Therapy. For example, Dr. John Gottman’s research "indicates that 69% of relationship conflicts are 'perpetual problems' rooted in fundamental differences in personality, values, or lifestyle. These issues, such as cleaning habits or finances, are rarely solved but rather managed through humor, acceptance, and dialogue, preventing them from becoming gridlocked, toxic, or leading to divorce." 

 

Additionally, the Gottman Method  ​emphasizes the importance of deeply understanding your partner and practicing kind behaviors. The Gottman method is affective, meaning that relationships are a key focus. This work helps couples learn to really listen to their partners and understand where their partners are coming from on multiple levels. With that understanding, and with practice developing good habits, you have a solid base from which to manage your perpetual problems.

 

The Gottman Method can be integrated with many other modalities, such as EFT.​​​​​

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What to expect in couples counseling

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In our first three sessions, we engage in comprehensive assessment and develop a plan. In our third session, we review recommendations from the assessment and agree on goals that will drive the interventions.

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With the Gottman Method, most of the work is between the couple and somewhat structured. That means I as therapist function a bit more like a teacher and a coach as you learn new techniques for conversation and problem resolution. If you like the idea of gaining relationship skills to use now and throughout your relationship, this type of work could be good for you